High Self-Esteem Women In Relationships

In this article, we will talk about how to deal with a high-self esteem women in a relationship.

I used to have terrible self esteem, and I guess I still do to a degree. But after certain events in my life hit a low point, I kind of had nothing left to lose and that gave me this weird sense of elation/freedom.

I struggle with image issues I had when I was a teenager, and even if it’s all pretty much fixed now that insecurity still lingers.

Dealing With Low Self-Esteem

One interesting thing I can tell you is that most people with low self-esteem  as very aware of it – painstakingly so – and this in turn only makes it worse.

When I’m around my bf, I don’t really feel self-conscious about it.

He’s been my best friend forever, so maybe it means I’m more comfortable around him, but I can be sad and depreciating one second but then logically analyse why I was feeling that way the next with him.

This does not happen around other people – it’s exclusively around him.

In a way, I’m more confident in myself around him, and that makes me appreciate him so much more (I always make sure he knows it too).

The only time I can think of where an increase in my self esteem was bad for my relationship was right after my big fallout with life – when I suddenly had almost nowhere to go but up, I became oddly confident but at the same time he kind of dropped to the back of my radar.

It lasted anywhere between 2-4 weeks, but he brought it up, and we talked about it and even though I was aware of it before I hadn’t really cared until that talk.

When I realized that it was making him feel unloved I fixed it – in a way, it was like an adjustment period where I had to recalibrate the way I interacted with him when I myself had changed so much (as in, I now had better self esteem) due to something that was so far outside anything to do with ‘us’ for the first time.

To this day I hate compliments – if someone calls me pretty/sexy/smart (not saying they do, just that if they do) it makes me physically uncomfortable.

This even applies here online – I have some people who ‘flirt’ and it makes my want to retreat into my shell and hide because I really hate it, and I don’t know how to control that instinctive need to violently pull away.

My low self-esteem is more obvious when I have to interact with people who show an interest in me than when I’m with the boy I love…as far as I’m concerned, I don’t have a LSE when I’m around him…he makes sure of that.

I love being vulnerable around my bf, and submissive to him, but it has nothing to do with my self esteem.

I’m a hundred times more likely to be rude to someone to hide my insecurities than I am to someone who doesn’t make me feel ashamed for having them.

My confidence, the confidence my boyfriend has encouraged and helped me to nurture, is the very reason why I think he’s a God and the reason why seeing a loud misogynist makes me feel nothing but pity for him.

My Best Relationship

My best relationship was with a girl everyone expected to be insanely high self esteem … she was incredible beautiful (still the most beautiful women I haver even seen anywhere) – she acted really high self-esteeem – she carried her self with an insane confidence (it immediately made me erect the first time I saw here) – she would literarily slaughter any man, eat him and make him go crying away …

Well self esteem is not defined by how many losers that likes you, how beautiful they think she is, or who you can have… sure that can give a certain kind of confidence… but in essence: it’s defined by how you think and feel about yourself…

And the girl I talk about here had stopped loving herself, even if she was the most incredible creature on the plantet …

ANY women can feel low self-esteem

The girl I talk about had had a MEAN bf before me… and with mean I mean that he was jealous as fuck …

I’m not going to share it here, but etc. he almost killed her by tying her under the ice cold shower, and leave here there for several days… he would forbid her to be around other ppl and shit like that… and that’s just in the small stuff department …

She always said we where both bad boys, but where she saw me as a good man, he was not!

Anyways, I basically had to help build her self-estem up from scratch … and it came back 1000 times … just like Jelly writes about her bf… I have done so with all my gf’s and there has been no exceptions for this …

It was difficulty in the beginning – because she wanted me to abuse her … she expected it …

She could hardly get out of that frame of wanting me to make her feel low self estem and like shit… she was so use to it that she was now confusing that for caring…

I’m not talking sexually … that’s another important distinction here (and it’s fucking difficult to tell the two appart sometimes)…

Sometimes some things can seam as abuse out of context without being so … sometimes girls will like a little drama, a good argument, they will like to feel a little sad once in a while (don’t fuck with that during their period, don’t demand or expect they always act happy), most girls likes to be teased a little (Jelly excepted), and yeah sometimes they want to be thrown around on the kitchen table so the loft crumbles down around you (even if you break their hips or leave some blue marks)…

Women are just weird like that, and they like diffrent things sometimes also…

Don’t fix them if they are like that… all on all I’m not talking about FIXING girls here / you should not FIX them … that’s not the stuff I’m talking about here’… accept it as part of who they are, and let them be the kind of creatures they are (don’t expect women to become men with a vagina – or what you want them to be… don’t hate fish for being fish)…

It’s really a very difficult distinction to many ppl… and i get why… but in the end it can always be measured on if you fill her with more self esteam or less… would she want you to not do the things you do IF she had high self esteem (or stop doing them)…

Do you support her (not just want you want from her) …

AND most of all what are you intentions! Are you trying to make her feel bad so you can take advantage of her, or are you trying to make her feel beautiful and make her shine…

As Brad once said about Angelina: “She’s still a bad girl, delightfully so. It’s not for public consumption.”

In the end it’s always worth it, and they really do love you for it… what they don’t love some men for is something else … these men just can’t distinct the two!

Another important distinction

Vulnerability is not the opposite of self esteem … female vulnerability is a beautiful thing… poking women in that vulnerability is not …

Our dependency of each other can equally be a beautiful thing … but lack of self esteem is not beautiful … shame is not beautiful…

A girl that surrenders to a strong man can be a beautiful experience for both of them, but her having her shit kicked in is not…

For the question, I don’t feel like more of a man by destroying a week women … the stronger the women are when I make her surrender the more of a man I feel … s

So for me, the stronger the girl the better… and I only want to future build her in that direction when I’m together with her…

It’s a bit like bullys they feel strong when they beat up the weak …

I could never feel that way … put me in the ring with mike tyson … and when he gives up and say “okay helio, no more … let’s just be friends” … well then I prefer that feeling … same with women I guess…

The fact that I can make a highclass women with massive self-estem want to be with me, without having to fuck her up to make her choose to … well that’s a good feeling… there is always a battle going on in the beginning … but that is something else!

I severely fear for this new misogynistic MGTOW movement of men (not to be confused with etc. “The Unchained Man” that I can fully back up) … it’s nothing but weak men’s weakness covered up!

Jelly that post explains allot of interesting things… good post… on some points you are not always like the girls I’m used to, which is fine … but it’s always interesting with a diffrent female opinion… And I’m glad to hear that your bf is a good man …

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